Everywhere you go in Shady Pines, and elsewhere this week, all you see are Valentine cards, flowers, and sweets. While the good folks of our favorite Southern town are making preparations for this day dedicated to the heart - I am on a different mission.

My father has experienced congestive heart failure and pulmonary bronchitis over the past six weeks. At 88 years old, he is having a hard time bouncing back. That's why, as I wade through the mountains of red and white confection all around,  I am preparing for my second cross country trip in less than a month. Dealing with life threatening illness is always a challenge. Coping with heart disease in the middle of "Heart Month," is almost too ironic.

My dad and I have a complicated relationship. For me, this is yet another journey of obligation mingled with opportunity. There is precious time left to heal the emotional wounds that have probably left both of our hearts with scars from the past. I am also travelling coast-to-coast to tend to the needs of my 88-year-old mother.  She is a story for another day. But her 57-year marriage to my dad is testament to the enduring power of love.

And so, as you buy something special for your Valentine, I ask you to consider what have you learned from love? It may not be as easy a question to answer as you think!